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Online dating has become progressively in vogue. One in five persons now anticipate love on the web, which has resulted to a striking change in courting practices. Just about everybody today sleeps with somebody that met thru the Net. With regards to casual sex, online dating is a far cry more efficient than night clubs or the old bar scene.

And it is actually no revelation in that respect as there are a superabundance of dating websites about. It is fast to join them, it is simple to instant message a member, and for you to acknowledge they’re ‘searching’, you’re addressing somebody that you already understand is available.

Dating sites run upon the customer market they can act upon. Exactly like average seekers out there, they likewise puzzle out different cases of dating sites that will provide to the wants of the marketplace.

Singles nowadays have several alternatives when it pertains locating that particular individual. From first encounters to chance meetings, one never knows where they may come across a new lover.

Meeting a person thru the web has turned into a much more plausible than in the recent past.  You are sure to know somebody who grabbed the attention of their lover on the internet. There’re several benefits to picking out this type of “hooking up” as a means to finding that exceptional lover.

Dating websites have rapidly turned into an online existence what the previous night club environment was to hooking up in the past. These services enable members to make their profiles that contain data about their wishes, preferred activities and so forth.

Once personal photos, chat rooms and IM are added into operation, these services have the advantage of performing quite good for erotic dating and casual sex, or even long term relationships.

Online Dating works. No question about it. Therefore if you are fed up with the common singles plan of attack, why not debate the online method to getting love? To a greater extent people are actualizing the unbelievable profits attendant to online dating.

Gratification and an extremely high satisfaction rate is much more gamey with internet dating. It has turned into a way for members everywhere to associate with one another in a meaningful way (one night stand anyone?).

Barely a couple of clicks of a button will do it. Cyberspace relationships may still advance some brows, and endanger your social bearing, but trust me it will be worth it and can very well enhance your lovelife.

Author — Molly Goodhead

They’ve got money, power and huge hard drives , so why aren’t Silicon Valley’s finest getting any?

It’s been observed that the Victorian era’s astounding progress in engineering, communications and global capitalism is a tribute to what harnessing sexuality to commerce can do. The same might be said about Silicon Valley, where no sleep, no life and the residue of the valley’s founding Puritanism (military/aerospace and semiconductor fabrication were not party-hearty industries) drive the information economy.

The guys wearing polo shirts who make the cover of Business 2.0 may be enjoying the pop-star eroticization of their image — but the fact is, the engineers who actually build technology are mostly not singing the body electric. At least not in the way Whitman intended. Ignore the high-profile sexual bad behavior of Oracle CEO Larry Ellison or former Starwave CTO/Infoseek exec Patrick “hotseattle” Naughton — their antics could have showed up in any industry sector, at any time. The Internet gold rush is not creating a new Barbary Coast in its stampede to the Bay Area.

Forget H-1B visas. In Silicon Valley the biggest immigration problem may be sex. People come from all over to work in the valley — from other states and other countries. It’s =hard= to make connections. Foreign nationals may have been schooled in the universal language of mathematics, but they may also be caught in a neuterland. That is, the rules of attraction and courtship they grew up with in Pakistan and Turkey don’t apply here; dating, West Coast style, can be confounding even for the natives.

Maybe it’s better to stay home with some much-loved Web sites.

At dinner with with several mid-to-late 20s engineers, both men and women, whose countries of origin were all over the Eurasian landmass, I was taken aback when they all shrugged and rolled their eyes at the notion of dating. They were fluent in English, presentably dressed, perfectly poised, all of them decent creatures — if you had been forced into a blind date with any one of them, you would not have been repulsed and you would at least have had a convivial evening. It didn’t make sense, on the face of it, that they had written off the prime recreational activity of most other members of their age group. When I spoke with a young man employed by a major computer company, whom I encountered in a short-term therapy group designed to help males figure out how to score better with females (unlock the key to female hardware and software!), he explained that he had done fine as a teenager in his Indian subcontinent homeland, but when he arrived in the United States to attend university he found there was so much culture shock that it was just too hard to also figure out the mating dance. And, he added, there was something about computer science that leads you away from learning/understanding/valuing the squishy irrational cues that are so necessary to doing well in the realm of spotting and sequestering a desirable mate.

Author — Paulina Borsook

Sex and the City fans are being kept guessing on details of what the plot of the film will be - but Sarah Jessica Parker couldn’t keep one of the film’s secrets under wraps.

The actress who plays fashion-forward journalist Carrie Bradshaw arrived on set having undergone a dramatic change in hair-colour from her usual curly blonde do to a more classic brunette.

Just what’s prompted this change of hair colour is unclear - let’s hope it’s not due to relationship dramas with her notoriously fickle onscreen beau Mr. Big.

Filming of the big screen version of the cult wildly successful Sex and the City television show started earlier this week, after a deal was sealed between feuding actresses Sarah Jessica Parker and Kim Cattrall.

 Tentative proof that the two have made up - on film anyway - came as the two shared what looked like - even for two actresses - a very awkward kiss.

Parker and Cattrall reportedly fell out during the filming of the television show, which ended in 2004.

Celebrity websites reported attempts to make the movie stalled when Cattrall demanded for the same money as Parker who was always paid more for the television series due to her additional role as executive producer.

However despite coming together on Monday as filming started, reports have already emerged that the feud between Cattrall and Jessica Parker may still be simmering.

Kim is reported to have stormed out of a reunion party for the cast held on the weekend in New York.

Earlier the actresses arrived for filming looking less than glamorous in their casual clothes. But a few hours in hair and make-up and they were transformed into their chic and stylish New York characters.

But onset at least, it appears the actresses are putting on a united front.

Author - Donna  McConnell

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Nowadays there are just so many adult online personals to sort through. Are you lonely late at night when the infomercials are going full-boar and house is empty? Yes indeed, no one’s around but you and that bowl of stale popcorn. Life couldn’t be better, right? Of course life could be better. Okay, who are we kidding? For one, you could do something exciting. On the other hand you could make a new bowl of popcorn. How about calling one of those phone sex hotlines? Those things are bogus anyway. No, scratch that! Anyway, there are other solutions to your boredom dilemma. I have a theory that they may just be recordings. This is all the rage now days, or haven’t you heard? Have you ever considered adult online personals? 2007 is upon us. People, it’s time to get with the new millennium.

However, then I witnessed first-hand my best buddy meet a hot girl. I used to consider adult online personals rather lame. I’m talking about the World-Wide-Web here. That’s crazy! 20 years ago no one have ever thought that couples would be making their first contact through a computer. I do say so myself, it’s really bizarre. It makes total sense if you actually take the time to think about it. We all spend so many hours on our computers already. Therefore we might as well make them a medium to meeting other singles like ourselves. This is a brilliant way to interact. There isn’t any pressure? In fact, there’s truly no reason to be nervous. You’re merely getting a feel for what they’re like online. You’re not face to face with anyone. That’s the great aspect of adult online personals. If you do decide that you want to meet up with them, you can if the feeling is mutual. Others come to you while you stick your information out in cyberspace. Is that ideal or what!

To get started you can easily post your information on the web. Maybe adult online personals sound perfect for you. Who knows? Find other singles just like yourself who enjoy the same activities and past times. Hop on Google now and sort through a variety of adult online personals. You could meet your soul mate this way. It’s all at your fingertips. Get started finding now that one who’s right for you.

Far from the revulsion experienced by New York Post columnist John Podhoretz as he read Ed Klein’s The Truth About Hillary, my chief reaction was of tedium: at the warmed-over, thrice-told anecdotes rendered in a prose so purple that one wonders how Klein and Sentinel (the publisher) forgot to link the book’s publication to the establishment of a 900 number re-enacting the lesbian panting that occurred at Wellesley in the late 1960s, which Hillary Clinton, as Klein might put, must surely have overheard and found transfixing.

But he did catch my interest from time to time. Take, for example, page 155.

It is there that he recounts an exchange between Clinton and Harold Ickes that took place in early 1999. It was a Sunday, and the two had both just watched (from separate locations) a Meet the Press episode in which her putative Senate candidacy was discussed. The first lady phoned the operative when the show ended and asked his opinion.

“Well, Hillary,” Klein quotes Ickes as having said, “if you don’t want to do this, don’t fuck around with it. Issue a Shermanesque statement, and that’ll be the end of it.”

“Well,” Hillary said, “that’s not where I am with this.”

I recognized the quote, or most of it, as having come from my own reporting, in my book Hillary’s Turn. I interviewed Ickes while working on the book (Clinton didn’t cooperate), and he recounted the exchange to me. I was the original source for the quote.

Sure enough, the footnotes say that the exchange is taken from page 19 of my book. But then I turned to page 19 of my book, which quotes Ickes as saying, “If you don’t want to do this, don’t mouse around with it.”

So, from Tomasky to Klein, “mouse” somehow became “fuck.” Undoubtedly, it’s a better word. I wish Ickes had said “fuck” to me; it would certainly have made for a better quote. And no, I did not bowdlerize it. Unfortunately, I felt bound by the usual workaday rule of reporting what the person actually said.

So why did it change? Aside from the fact that copulation (at least of the girl-girl sort) seems to be on Klein’s brain, I can’t help but think that Klein decided “fuck” was preferable because it fit far better with the squalid image of Ickes that the book attempts to portray. Ickes is referred to as “the dark prince” on page 27, when he is introduced, and again on page 154, as he is reintroduced. Dark princes, as we all know, don’t mouse around with words like “mouse.”

OK, it may be a small thing. Mediamatters.org has done an excellent job of cataloging Klein’s more serious errors. And no, I’m obviously not suing. But it’s really bizarre. Did Klein think I wouldn’t notice this? More importantly, if he put the dirtiest word in the English language in Harold Ickes’ mouth, what else might he have put in other peoples’ mouths?

Yes, a small thing, my little issue; but symbolic of the entire, pathetic project. This book isn’t simply trash. It may well be libel.

I wish I could say the thought was my own, but it’s the intellectual property of citizen Jake Miller, who wrote, in his one-star Amazon review: “I am a First-Amendment scholar. This book is, without a doubt, libel. By the most stringent standards, applicable to public figures, who can almost never claim libel … this book is libel. … Willful lies intended to defame.”

So, while I won’t sue, I have to say I’d have a chuckle if Hillary decided to. Yes, yes, a journalist isn’t supposed to say that. New York Times v. Sullivan and all that. Our freedom to write about public figures.

Two points. First, as a journalist, I feel compelled to speak in defense only of other journalists. This book leaves Klein’s status in that regard quite open to question. Second — well, let’s cut to the chase: Does New York Times v. Sullivan mean that “journalists” should be able to offer sly implications about a public person’s sex life on the basis of surmise and rumor?

The problem runs deeper even than Klein. Today, with the explosion of Web sites, all sorts of propagandists and provocateurs who aren’t journalists can hide behind the label when it comes to First Amendment protection. Can they write anything they please about public figures, knowing that they can print lies as long as Sullivan is in force?

As I noted, some will think these are heretical words for a journalist to produce. But mark my words: Someday, some pseudo-reporter will cross a line; a fed-up public figure will say, as it were, “Mouse the media! I’ve had enough!”; a different Supreme Court than the one that rendered the Sullivan decision in 1964 will overturn it.

Real, responsible journalists, burdened by the mundane rituals of respecting facts and printing what people actually said, will pay a price for this sort of Kleinian garbage. The truth will suffer, and this journalistically licentious age — in which, interestingly enough, most of the promiscuity happens to involve writing about the Clintons — will rightly be named as the culprit.

Author –  Michael Tomasky

This is something a friend asked and here is what I said
point — you love your mom and dad, your kids and your friends (some of them) does that mean your cheating???? now you can say it is a different kind of love —- is it really? define love, then tell me how it is different for each situation and then (if you have any love for god) tell me how your not cheating on god when you love your wife ——- love is love … it is the same no matter who you give it to it is what “you choose to do” after you you start loving that determines the fact of cheating or not cheating.
the bible tells us to “love thy neighbor” does it not? god didn’t tell us to have sex with our neighbor (for he did say not to covet thy neighbors things including his wife)
if your on a nude beach with your wife are you and her cheating (maybe in your mind by lusting for some gal for lust is a sin) but if you “don’t touch” your not cheating … most women (and some men) would say if your thinking of (or dreaming of) doing him/her then you are.
and are you cheatng if your wife (or gf) says you can (or wants you to) or your in a 3-some or 4-some.
these may be philosophical questions and answers and I could go on but I think you get my drift. 100 people 100 different answers 1 book (the bible) 1 answer ——- mind you I’m no saint nor am I a church going person I am just someone that has gone in the past and I am not trying to preach just telling what I know from it and telling — this country was founded on the laws and principals of the bible and its morals thats why I say what I have.

Sleep medicine experts have successfully treated a rare case of a woman having sex with strangers while sleepwalking.

The behaviour had disrupted the lives of the woman and her partner. At night while asleep, the middle-aged sleepwalker - who lives in Australia and cannot be identified for reasons of confidentiality - left her house and had sexual intercourse with strangers. The behaviour continued for several months and the woman had no memory of her nocturnal activities.

Circumstantial evidence, such as condoms found scattered around the house, alerted the couple to the problem. On one occasion, her partner awoke to find her missing, went searching for her and found her engaged in the sex act.

“Incredulity is the leading player in cases like this,” says Peter Buchanan, the sleep physician at the Woolcock Institute of Medical Research in Sydney, who handled the case. But a combination of factors convinced him that the case was a real sleepwalking phenomenon, including the distress of the couple, and an in-depth clinical evaluation.

Sleep talking
During that evaluation, the patient was assessed by psychiatrists, and checked for physical problems such as brain tumours, which may cause unusual behaviour. Neither of those examinations could find a cause.

However, she was found to have a history of talking in her sleep as a teenager and when monitored in the sleep laboratory, she was found to have a higher number of arousals from deep sleep than is usual. Both of these factors might indicate a susceptibility to abnormal sleep behaviour.

However, Roger Allen, a sleep specialist in private practice in Brisbane is sceptical. “Sex is a primal behaviour so it’s not impossible - men have erections in their sleep after all - but this case involved such complex behaviour it seems less likely.” He also points out that eliminating psychiatric conditions as a cause of the behaviour would be difficult.

Sleep driving
But there are some extraordinary cases of sleep walkers leaving their homes, driving cars, or engaging in behaviours that they would not usually. In 1987, Ken Parks, drove 23 kilometres from his home in Pickering, Ontario, to his in-laws house, where he strangled his father-in-law unconscious, and stabbed his mother-in-law to death. He was acquitted of murder because he was sleepwalking at the time.

“People in a state of automatism don’t have access to their full range of beliefs and desires, so it seems justifiable to excuse them,” says Neil Levy of the Centre for Applied Philosophy and Public Ethics at the University of Melbourne.

Sleepwalking is often triggered by stress, and this may have been the case with the Sydney woman, says Buchanan. She stopped her night-time excursions after psychiatric counselling. Drugs such as benzodiazepines, which are sometimes used to treat sleep walkers, were not necessary.

Any type of sleepwalking is rare. It occurs in around 3% of children and young adolescents, and about 0.5% of adults. Usually it involves little more than walking around in a fairly purposeful way while asleep, although sleepwalkers may lash out if awoken.

The results were presented at a sleep conference in Sydney on Friday.

NewScientist.com news service
Rachel Nowak, Melbourne

Every so often there comes a time when you just want to use a dating site for casual sex connections. Sex is a need, after all, and who are you to stand in the way of the desires of your flesh? Using dating sites for casual sex makes sense. The costs are low and you can be as up front about what you’re looking for as you’d like. There are some unique considerations when it comes to casual sex on dating sites, though, which should be looked at.

There are more men than women who are using dating sites for casual sex. In the absence of hard numbers, I shall hazard a guess that the ratio is heavily in favor of women who are looking for intimate hookups. This means that guys have an uphill battle. I have friends on both sides of the gender fence that have sought and found casual affairs. It just might take longer to find a match if you’re a guy, so don’t get discouraged if it actually takes a bit of work before something comes of your casual sex-capades on dating sites.

“Pick your casual sex-dating site for pleasure and get yourself set up for intimate bliss!”

The actual process of finding a casual intimate relationship online can be as simple or difficult as you’d like to make it. It can be just as easy as changing your headline to “Casual Sex Dates Only.” Women are advised to stand well back from their inbox after posting something like that. The onslaught is sure to wow and amaze you. Guys, on the other hand, might find that their general mail slows after throwing up a sign that you’re really after sex. Apparently this whole casual sex thing isn’t as popular with females on dating sites or in life in general. If you would prefer to be a little more sly about it, you can simply enter a less-forward profile and heading in the intimate connections section of your favorite dating site or change your intentions to sex or play from committed relationship or whatever flag it is you’re currently flying. It will also help if you explain yourself a little better in your write up. Add things like why it is you’re looking for a casual sex relationship as opposed to any other. Write about what you’re looking to do, where you’re looking to do it and how you’d like it to be done. Be open and descriptive. It’s the best way to ensure that anyone who does come calling is on the same page as far as casual sex and dating are concerned.

There are many sites on the web that you can go to when looking for lust online. There are the more overt sites such as those found in our sex dating section. Each one specializes in intimate connections but buyers beware. Again, women shouldn’t have a problem, but the ratio of guys to girls here is certainly not in the men’s favor. The other route is to join a regular dating site and troll for options there. Some sites have special sections set up just for the purpose of casual sex dating. Other sites do it a little more discreetly, offering a side note on your profile where you can stipulate whether you’re looking for a serious relationship, a casual dating partner or something a little more intimate in nature. If this is more your style, you can check any of the dating sites listed in the columns on the left. Sign up for free and check out your options. If they have something set aside to suit your needs, you’re bound to see it. Pick your casual sex-dating site for pleasure and get yourself set up for intimate bliss!

Casual sex can suit different people at different stages in their life. It’s not something to feel ashamed about as long as it doesn’t go against your beliefs or the laws that govern a sane and proper society. Enjoy your casual sex adventures to the fullest. After all, it’s all about giving and receiving pleasure, and there are a lot of things in this world that are worse than that!

Author– Jenn Malko

Young people are more likely to use condoms with a casual sex partner than with their main partner, according to a study published in the September issue of the Journal of Adolescent Health, the New York Times reports (Nagourney, New York Times, 8/29).

Celia Lescano - a psychologist at the Bradley-Hasbro Children’s Research Center in Providence, R.I., and an assistant professor at Brown Medical School - and colleagues questioned 1,316 sexually active young people ages 15 to 21 from clinics in three major U.S. cities.

The researchers in their survey assessed participants’ condom use within the past 90 days, evaluated participants’ sexual attitudes, questioned their substance use and gathered demographic data on the participants (Lescano et al., Journal of Adolescent Health, September 2006).

The study finds that those with and without regular partners on average have the same amount of unprotected sex.

This is in part explained because many young people who are in committed relationships still have sex with people outside of that relationship and, even if the young people use condoms with their casual partners, they likely will have unprotected sex with their main partner, according to the researchers.

“Perhaps adolescents overestimate the safety of using condoms ‘most of the time’ with a casual partner and underestimate the risk of unprotected sex with a ’serious partner,’” the study says (New York Times, 8/29).

The researchers said, “Interventions that do not target attitudes and practices related to casual partners as compared with main partners may miss an opportunity to change risk behaviors,” concluding, “This study demonstrates the importance of understanding an adolescent’s perception of partner types in order to design effective interventions” (Journal of Adolescent Health, September 2006).