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Your profile is the key to meeting your perfect match at online dating and personals services so its surprising that many profiles are mediocre at best. With a little extra time, thought and effort and the help of these tips, you can make yours a winner and attract a large pool of admirers to take your pick from.

1. Invent a distinctive username

Your username (nickname) is the first hint at what kind of person you are. It needs to be original and memorable, while somehow summing you up - not easy in a dozen letter or so !

2. Write a compelling headline

Your opening line, or headline, is like the first thing you see on an ad: it should compel people to read on and find out more about you. Don’t be apologetic about being there - I don’t normally do this sort of thing - and don’t begin (as thousands do) with My names Bob, Im 25 and live in Boise. This isn’t compelling. Its not even interesting. Born in Boise, Heading for Barbados is more the thing. Its intriguing without being confusing, and raises questions : is Bob a traveler, a dreamer or working for an international company ? Only one way to find out read on !

3. Post at least one photo

For 75% of online daters, the photo is the first thing they look for when browsing through profiles. Not surprisingly, profiles with photos get ten to fifteen times the response of those without. Including a photo is a must ! But beware, some photos do more harm than good. Big offenders are photos that show you with someone else, or even worse, part of someone else. (It might bot be your ex, or your exs body part, but people have no way of knowing).

4. Check your grammar and spelling

You might be the most intelligent person on the planet but if you rush your profile and dont check your spelling and grammar you’re not going to come across well to anyone who values intelligence. You might like to prepare your freestyle entries using a program with spelling and grammar checkers, then paste them into your profile.

5. Avoid clichs

Unfortunately, a lot of people say the same thing in the same way as everyone else. Its boring at best and unbelievable at worst. Can we really believe that so many people exercise regularly and keep in good shape ? Also, use a thesaurus to replace well-worn words like good and nice with more interesting, meaningful alternatives that add spice and sparkle to your profile.

6. Make your meaning clear

Your spelling and grammar might be perfect but sometimes your words can convey a completely different meaning from what you intended. Give your profile a through reading to avoid potentially embarassing or damaging misinterpretations !

7. Stick to your own style

Many online dating profile include sections where you can express yourself in your own words. Its a chance to make yourself more human and real, and other members can pick up lots of interesting information about you clues they might fing appealing - from the way you express yourself. Dont block the process by suddenly adopting a style and tone that isn’t really you.

8. Focus on your qualities

Its our unique qualities that makes us attractive - and to some, very attractive !When you have a chance to describe yourself, let these qualities shine. Skip the things that people take for granted (and have in common) and focus on the things that make you, you.